Wednesday, October 13, 2010

If my HOOAH offends you.

Since it seems this type of thing is happening on a regular basis now, I don't plan to bring it up each time. But I thought this recent set of Anonymous comments was rather timely given the question for (Mili)ing It Over. The question was on stereotypes that the media puts on Milies. My thing is that there are situations out there where if someone is stereotyped by a dictator or a militant group they face things like prison, torture, or even death. If America wants to put a stereotype on me as a spouse, there are far worse things that could happen!



I really wasn't terribly mad at these comments that were left. For one I said the last time it happened that I know I care way too much about what people think about me. Those "military marriage counselors" who tried to rip me one did a lot to cure that because these new comments really only left me upset about one thing. They are supposedly coming from a "friend" but that person won't own up to it. That's so lame. But anyways, I could rant about that forever. Its kind of funny though, if you think about it. People like to get so pissy online and "yell" through the screen "GET A LIFE!!!" Haha. If you are that upset about something someone says on their own blog then maybe they aren't the ones who need to get a life. I adore my online friends and sometimes do disagree with a post, a status update, or a lifestyle choice...but it never bothers me to that extent. Why? Because I actually have a life outside of the computer!


Anyways, back on track with the stereotype issue. To me a stereotype is just another word for assumption. You take a little information, and you assume a lot to fill in the gaps. Then we assume everyone with a certain connection has these qualities. According to these comments I'm "that" Army wife. I'm the one who can't shut up, ever, about being part of the Army. Every Facebook status and blog post is Army. Army. Army. Army.


And apparently I'm wasting my time being concerned about G.I. Joe's dreams and supporting him to achieve them.




But isn't that what marriage kind of is anyways? Military or not? Shouldn't you be that persons' biggest fan and greatest cheerleader?


Now, I don't agree at all that I "can't breath without saying Army" or whatever. Are we really such a socially challenged society that we automatically assume people put 100% of their lives online in blogs, Facebook, and twitter? If you do I strongly suggest you back away from this and go outside for 13 minutes of oxygen. Then if you must, come back and blog about it or post a status update about how the creak in your screen door is very bothersome and it will need oil soon. I don't put a lot of aspects of my life online. Why? Because I do write articles about military life. I put a lot about military life and our Army love story out there so some other things are just for me. You know, I will admit...I've looked at some of those big mom blogs before and thought "Geez! Do they have anything in their life besides cloth diapering? Can they talk about anything besides stuff that catches poo?" Then I just have to give them the benefit of the doubt that yeah, they probably can talk about something else in real life! They just choose to put this one area of their life online and document it for a particular reason. There is nothing wrong with that and it doesn't at all mean there isn't more to them as people!


If people read this blog or my facebook statuses and want to put me into a category of the wife who is "too proud" and the one who thinks there is nothing more to life than supporting a man who fights for freedom...oh well. Is that really an insult? Is that supposed to make me feel compelled to water down my HOOAH? Never! 


I was discussing this with some awesome Milies on Twitter this weekend. We were talking about all the hilarious facebook statuses I should post, like


"PROUD ARMY WIFE, CURRENTLY SERVING AS FLY PAPER FOR FREAKS!"



The one I like the best though, that I wish I had come up with the day I got the first of these comments was...


YOU. ARE. WELCOME.

If we seem "obsessive" about things like freedom, 

and honor,

you're welcome. 

If that offends you, 

don't read this blog.

Unfriend me on Facebook.


And know that I will NEVER tone down the pride I have for being 

the wife of a soldier.





43 comments:

TheAlbrechtSquad said...

Amen :)

Expat Girl said...

The title of this blog would suggest that the area of your life you are going to be focusing on is military so if people don't want to read that "all the time" then they should read different blogs. We all show our pride in different ways and you are married to your hero so blog on. Don't get upset by comments, take them as a learning curve. maybe you can learn something from them too though. They might not be going about it the best way but everyone has a point and an opinion and for you to come out on top you probably shouldnt fight back like you have been doing. Instead hold your head up and say thank you for their opinion, thank you for their service and keep going on with yours. They are military too after all : )

Rebekah said...

I love this!

♥ Elizabeth said...

Thank You. Just call me June, but I think being a {good} wife is ALL about respecting, supporting, and nurturing your husbands career! You can NEVER, NEVER, NEVER be too proud of the service and sacrifice he {or any member of the military} makes for our country.

Furthermore- I get upset with anonnymous commenters, not because of their view, but because they shield their identity. Aren't we all grown ups here? If you have a differing view point, just get it out... but do so in a way I can respond to you.

GREAT POST!

Maria (a.k.a Angie) said...

HOOAH!!!

JG said...

Hooah!

Bonnie said...

I want to be your friend on Facebook! :)

SLM said...

AMEN!!!!!

Audrey said...

Good for you, girl! :)

Carmen said...

Amen sister!! As wives, we should never tone down our pride for our husbands. Those who judge don't understand.

Aqua M said...

I have a suggestion - can't you disable anonymous comments through Blogger? I did that to elminate spam, but also because my curiosity to is too strong and it would drive me crazy not to know who said what!

ThatArmyWife said...

You know, this life is challenging. We experience all the normal turmoils of married life: finances, kids, family drama, balancing time, goals and so forth. But those challenges are flavored (and sometimes overshadowed)by the opportunities, restrictions and added stresses of military life. We are MilSpouses not just because it's what our husbands do, we LIVE the life too. The military chooses where we live, when we take vacations, when we have family time, etc...It has nothing to do with rank or branch. Sometimes that pride is all that gets us through the tough days.

Mel said...

Once again, you emanate class! I love how you handled it and I am continually proud of your resilience and dedication to stand up for your family and your life! You go girl!

And those "friends" of yours are clearly misguided. The good news is that you know where you stand and what matters most and they don't. That's the life they'll have to live with and it's a grim one.

Miss L said...

You go girl!

Samantha said...

Can I get a "Hallelujah?!"

Mrs. Monkey said...

Amen! And Hooah, and Hooya, and Oorah!

Mrs. G.I. Joe said...

Aqua, I actually don't want to disable anonymous comments. I use the comment moderation because that filters out the spam. But for these comments I can't take away that choice because it should be a choice. If someone wants to come onto someone's blog and lash out anonymously, they honestly have the right to do that. Now, the blog writer also has the right not to publish them. But also if I take away that choice then my friends and family who don't have blogs, twitter or a website wouldn't be able to comment. And I have had cases where someone just needed to keep their identity a little more concealed, which I don't mind.

The only thing here is that I wish I knew who it was. That's all.

And I don't really see that as "fighting back." Yeah I mentioned it in this post because it sort of proves my point about assumptions. Its constructive to say someone needs to broaden their mind but when you attack them in a really rude and borderline hostile tone, that's not constructive. So yeah. I would really prefer to know which blog people I friended on Facebook that I shouldn't have.

Renee said...

HOOAH!!!!

:O)

Meg said...

You should be SO proud! Each and every person should have the same pride you have, regardless of their walk of life. We CHOSE to take on this lifestyle, and you better believe we're proud! Just as anyone else would be proud of their accomplishments, we're proud of ours and our families. HOOAH to you and keep it up! You're truly an example to all of us!

One proud Army wife said...

From one Army wife to another HOOAH!! Those anon writters should be thanking our husbands for allowing them to speak their minds. I think some people tend to forget that. I am a proud military wife and I stand beside my man in what ever he chooses and if that makes me over prideful for the sacrifices he makes for not only me but for our country then so be it. I absolutely love your blog, your class and your grace. You are an inspiration to us all.

Madison {Life Happens During Naptime} said...

There's nothing wrong with being proud of your husband. Even though I am a civilian so I can't really relate to the milie stuff I still enjoy reading along and seeing the strength in your marriage and your devotion to your man. And most importantly I treasure your friendship even though we have never met in real life.

I know how you feel having someone "close" to you making disparaging anon comments. It hurts, but just remember that you have a whole lotta people who don't feel negatively about you or your Milie Pride =)

Sarah said...

HOOAH!!

I couldn't agree with you more! I just don't understand why people get so irritated reading our blogs. They're our feelings. Don't get your panties in a wad because you don't like what we're saying. Take a breath and close the freakin' window and never come back if you don't want to. =)

I still think you should post the "you're welcome" status on facebook. Haha.

Kerry said...

I don't get why people are so stupid that they'd not only go on YOUR blog but actually take the time to comment. Like they have such an influence over your life that you'd change to fit THEIR needs. PUHLEASE!!!

Keep doing what you're doing girlie. I'm sure your hubby loves ya for supporting him and since he's the one that matters, to hell with everyone else. ;)

Love ya girlie.

Jeannette said...

Amen!

Plus, if anons wanted any kind of credibility, why not just use a fake name? Just click Name/URL and put Billy Bob or something... jeez. All they want is drama.

September Love said...

I think it's pretty clear when your blog is entitled "ACUs...." that the focus is going to be on your life as it relates to the military a lot of the time, if not all of the time.

the (3) Anons are just using "talk about something different for once" as an excuse (albeit a bad one) to come on your URL and make negative comments....

and that's so lame.

You're doing an awesome job, and we LOVE your blog, and we LOVE YOU!

Amy

Little Momma said...

Well your blog title clearly implies that you will focus on your life as an Army Wife, just like the cloth-diapering Mommas, the frugal Moms, etc. have their "theme".

Mine clearly lays out that I'm a rambler, so reader beware! It's as simple as not reading the post if it doesn't interest you. The fact that someone would take the time to criticize just shows that they have too much time on their hands.

SJSFalter+ said...

Keep the pride. Keep the support. Continue to give the "MIL Spouse" title a good name. There is nothing wrong with that.

Mrs.Wood said...

* APPLAUSE*
Now that I'm done clapping and standing, that was as always a beautiful post. I finally had a moment to sit and saw your emails, things have been very busy with a little craziness lately. :0 we are good and when I have a moment to sit I will be emailing you back. :)

♥Miss Brittney♥ said...

I seriously can't believe the nerve of some people! Those anonymous commenters were so rude, and then tried to back pedal and compliment you, only going on again to insult you. It makes no sense and they are the ones that need to "get a life." I personally enjoy reading your posts, they are always insightful, articulate and heartfelt. If they have such a problem with what you write about then maybe they should stop reading your blog, or man up and stop hiding behind the "anonymous" comment mask. Just know that there are many people who value what you have to say and that you are an exceptional writer! :) And you are so right, maybe the whole thing about switching branches was just God's way of testing your faith. He wanted to see how far you were willing to trust in him to get you through these hardships, even if that meant switching to another branch and no longer being an "army family." I'm glad it all worked out, and can I just say that its adorable that your hubby left a comment defending you! Now thats true love, lol!! :)

Ashley said...

So once again, I am behind on my blogging! All I have to say is that these people have no lives or no honor or respect! You are a military spouse and it is a HUGE part of who you are!! I love your blog!!

Mandy said...

I love your blog and I hope you dont make any changes to it. If someone does not like what you write then they should consider not reading it, not telling you to change the content.
I do find it interesting that these people wont reveal their identity. If they really cared and were trying to offer constructive criticism they would have no problem revealing themselves. It seems to me as though they are trying to stir drama, pay them no attention :).

hmb said...

Congrats on being back in the Army :)

*~BrittDill~* said...

Amen!!! Not a darn thing wrong with being a proud Military spouse!!!

Bradley said...

Hooah!
or as my Dad would say, Oohra, he was/is/retired Marine.

IF they dont want to hear what you are saying, they can stop reading it.

Nina said...

Unfortunately some people just don't see the world beyond their own. I honestly think it is their loss.
You are doing a great job as an Army Wife; actually all the spouses, military or not, should do the same - respect, love and support your spouse.

I am very, very proud of J who is in the Army, and like you, I am his biggest supporter and cheerleader. No matter what he wants to do, I am standing by his side. Just like he is on my side, and is my biggest supporter ever. But I don't think it makes me or him a crazy lunatic, instead it is about two people loving and supporting each other through thick and thin.

Hooah to you & the family!

Ashley said...

Oh I love you. :)

Anonymous said...

I think your support of your husband is truly honorable and a trademark of true love. I think your pride in your husband is sweet and speaks to your devotion to your relationship. My only concern is that your support of your husband's occupation could naturally lead to your support of the United States' military operations -- which are not always honorable. I wonder if this ever causes you cognitive dissonance. I know from reading your blog that you are a person of faith. How do you reconcile your husband's obvious good intentions with the reality of what it means to take part in the US military? Please realize I'm not suggesting that soldiers are bad people or are even responsible for doing some of the bad things that happen in times of war. Simply, I assume your husband's intentions are to promote and protect freedom; I'm wondering if you (or he) think(s) that these positive outcomes are actually created by US military operations.

Mrs. G.I. Joe said...

Okay I just wrote like a mega long comment and of course didn't bother to copy it and didn't save. Haha so now to try and remember what I wrote!I'm going to have to post this in 2 because its a little long. I hope it answers your questions though!

Anonymous, I really appreciate your comment. I don’t completely agree with the generalization that my support of my husband could lead me to support all US military operations whether they are honorable or not. I can see your view point, but that’s not really happening here. I chose to focus more in this blog on my personal feelings as it relates to military-spousehood issues and also my pride and love for my husband. The reason I do that is just to stay sane. Cognitive dissonce is something I feel will always be part of military family life. Do I want my husband to be in danger? No. Will I ever be one of those wives who thrives from the attention that comes with that? No. But does it make me proud that my soldier is capable of doing things that many either can’t or won’t? You bet!

I don’t think we should ever generalize or assume anything about military wives and their support of military operations. You can find wives all across the board on this one! For one extreme you have the wife who never asks any questions. Whatever the military says is basically gospel and she feels no reason to think for herself. Then to the opposite extreme you have wives who will say they love a service member but don’t support any single military operation at all. And of course there are wives at every point in between.

I, and no one for that matter, can ever truly say that they either support 100% of the military’s operations or are against them all. The reason is because the people who have enough information to make those statements are in the teeny tiny percent of American’s who are calling the military shots. The rest of us aren’t privy to all their information, operational procedure, or contributing factors. Even if the men in America’s war rooms handed me every bit of information they have, I wouldn’t even begin to compute it all.

Mrs. G.I. Joe said...

I can tell you I support all the operations my husband has been a part of. Not just because he was involved, but because he was I was able to gain first hand accounts and I ask him as many questions as possible. He knows if something doesn’t seem right I’ll speak up and try to learn more. Its actually our little joke at home that since I wear peace signs and he carries a gun we represent the duality of man.

As a Christian and a military wife I understand that we live in a fallen society and war happens. I hate that for the obvious reasons. Many people will go on to say things like “We just shouldn’t ________ because of the number of __________” But the fact stands that you can’t be educated on these matters from politically biased (of any direction) publications, the news included.

I’ll just end with this short story. About half way through GIJoe’s Iraq tour he ran into a market that had been bombed. From the rubble he pulled a little boy who had lost both his legs below the knees. As he carried the boy to their field hospital he screamed in his arms until finally passing out. GIJoe had his blood from helmet to boots. He was “needed” elsewhere and had to leave so he never found out if the boy lived or died after that. BUT…he knew that the boy had a CHANCE to live. For 90% of American’s out there we don’t actually have a clue how bad it is to live with war. For me personally though, if I was one Iraq mother I’d be thankful for US military operations. A combat soldier goes in looking for war but can end up saving lives in conflict that many Americans don't deem worthy enough.

That's something I will always be proud to be part of.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for responding to my questions. I apologize if it seemed I generalized and assumed you support US military operations. I meant that it is only natural to support your husband in his operations and that there must be some sort of desire to support the operations themselves (as a way of making sense of the pain of being separated and so forth). I'm glad there are people in the military like your husband -- people who have respect for human life. Too often I encounter individuals who think a person in Iraq is inherently less valuable than a person in the states. Also, in the region where I'm from, supporting war has become part of being a self-respecting Christian -- a fact that leaves me sad and frightened for the direction of our country.
Please understand that I'm coming from an academic standpoint and have a particular interest in the Vietnam War. If you have not seen it, I would suggest looking into a film called "Winter Soldier" -- it has changed my perspective forever.
Finally, thank you again for your time. I'm glad to know there are still thoughtful and loving people in the world. Continue to use both your heart and your mind as you go through life and you will accomplish great things. My only other piece of advice to you is to watch out for pride -- “A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you're looking down, you can't see something that's above you.” C.S. Lewis

Mr. Superman & Mrs. S. said...

Amen and HUA!

Anonymous said...

Hi Mrs GI Joe! I've only just come across your blog but your writing makes me swell with pride. I know this happened back in October but I almost want to shed a tear for those "friends" posting anonymously on your other posting. What cowards. Plus, if they can't see that from your blog name, starting with ACU's the Army is a huge part of your life...maybe they need some critical reading skills. So many of us new Army wives LOVE reading your blog. The journeys that you have been on are amazing...and while I know they were hard, for those of us just starting out, they provide that sense of hope, and security...in knowing that we're not the only ones struggling with these things. Since becoming a military wife I've ventured into a different world. I didn't come from a military family, and I think military wife does somewhat define me now. And I don't think that by declaring it or letting people know about it (especially in personal spaces...even if they are public!!!!!) is wrong in any way!! To you anonymous "friends" IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT DON'T READ IT....THERE ARE PLENTY OF US OUT HERE WHO APPRECIATE IT AND WANT TO READ IT. Like Mrs GI Joe said, go step outside for 13 minutes. :)

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