I really wasn't terribly mad at these comments that were left. For one I said the last time it happened that I know I care way too much about what people think about me. Those "military marriage counselors" who tried to rip me one did a lot to cure that because these new comments really only left me upset about one thing. They are supposedly coming from a "friend" but that person won't own up to it. That's so lame. But anyways, I could rant about that forever. Its kind of funny though, if you think about it. People like to get so pissy online and "yell" through the screen "GET A LIFE!!!" Haha. If you are that upset about something someone says on their own blog then maybe they aren't the ones who need to get a life. I adore my online friends and sometimes do disagree with a post, a status update, or a lifestyle choice...but it never bothers me to that extent. Why? Because I actually have a life outside of the computer!
Anyways, back on track with the stereotype issue. To me a stereotype is just another word for assumption. You take a little information, and you assume a lot to fill in the gaps. Then we assume everyone with a certain connection has these qualities. According to these comments I'm "that" Army wife. I'm the one who can't shut up, ever, about being part of the Army. Every Facebook status and blog post is Army. Army. Army. Army.
And apparently I'm wasting my time being concerned about G.I. Joe's dreams and supporting him to achieve them.
But isn't that what marriage kind of is anyways? Military or not? Shouldn't you be that persons' biggest fan and greatest cheerleader?
Now, I don't agree at all that I "can't breath without saying Army" or whatever. Are we really such a socially challenged society that we automatically assume people put 100% of their lives online in blogs, Facebook, and twitter? If you do I strongly suggest you back away from this and go outside for 13 minutes of oxygen. Then if you must, come back and blog about it or post a status update about how the creak in your screen door is very bothersome and it will need oil soon. I don't put a lot of aspects of my life online. Why? Because I do write articles about military life. I put a lot about military life and our Army love story out there so some other things are just for me. You know, I will admit...I've looked at some of those big mom blogs before and thought "Geez! Do they have anything in their life besides cloth diapering? Can they talk about anything besides stuff that catches poo?" Then I just have to give them the benefit of the doubt that yeah, they probably can talk about something else in real life! They just choose to put this one area of their life online and document it for a particular reason. There is nothing wrong with that and it doesn't at all mean there isn't more to them as people!
If people read this blog or my facebook statuses and want to put me into a category of the wife who is "too proud" and the one who thinks there is nothing more to life than supporting a man who fights for freedom...oh well. Is that really an insult? Is that supposed to make me feel compelled to water down my HOOAH? Never!
I was discussing this with some awesome Milies on Twitter this weekend. We were talking about all the hilarious facebook statuses I should post, like
"PROUD ARMY WIFE, CURRENTLY SERVING AS FLY PAPER FOR FREAKS!"
The one I like the best though, that I wish I had come up with the day I got the first of these comments was...
YOU. ARE. WELCOME.
If we seem "obsessive" about things like freedom,
If that offends you,
don't read this blog.
Unfriend me on Facebook.
And know that I will NEVER tone down the pride I have for being
the wife of a soldier.