My fabulous partner-in-crime over at Ask The Milies is Kerry-Ann.
She planned an awesome post today for you guys about following your dreams while supporting your man in uniform.
It’s been over a decade since I decided to jump aboard the military wife train. I have to admit that when my husband and I first got together my biggest fear wasn’t whether he’d be sent to war since we were together before 9/11. Back then my biggest fear was whether I’d have to give up on my dreams.
During my freshman year in college I decided to take a few acting classes to fill up my elective credits while studying to be a Pediatrician. After my first acting class I fell in love with all things performance. I tried my best to snap out of it but was convinced that there had to be something to the way I was feeling after I watched “The Sister Act II” when Whoopi’s character was talking to Lauryn Hill’s character about following her dreams. She said something to the effect of “If singing is the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing you think of before you go to sleep then honey, you were born to be a singer.”
This happened before I met hubby so when we started dating and was later faced with having to PCS, I was a little hesitant because I thought for sure that I would have to give up my dreams because there was no way hubby was going to give up his career in the Marine Corps for me to pursue a career in acting. Add on 2 kids and I was sure I’d have to give up “my” dreams.
So what happened? Resentment! I resented myself for not planning well enough. I resented the Marine Corps for not allowing my husband to get off in time to watch our children so I could go on auditions. I resented them even more when I actually got a lead role and had to back out because the filming schedule didn’t fit with my husband’s schedule. I even started to resent hubby every time he would receive acclamations for him being an exemplary Marine. I resented feeling this way because here my husband was trying to be a great husband and father and risking his life to serve our country while I was being a sour puss.
To say I was overwhelmed would be an understatement. I finally decided that I’d snap out of it and do something. I tried my best to work around hubby’s schedule. I worked my butt off trying to get experience in the entertainment field. Often times I’d end up driving 2 to 3 hrs to LA from San Diego after working an 8 hr shift at work only to audition for 10 minutes then drive back in time to tuck the kids in at night. What really fueled me was the fact that if my children ever got to a point where they wanted to just settle in life, I wanted to prove to them that they should always push through and follow their dreams no matter how many obstacles may stand in their way.
Sure I’m not at the level I’d like to be in the entertainment industry and yes there were times when having to back out of a project or not auditioning at all for a while would drive me crazy but I was and still am very proud of myself for not settling.
Being a military wife is very rewarding and can be quite challenging but that doesn’t mean that you have to give up on “yourself.” It’s the best feeling in the world when I get to do something for “me” not because I’m a military spouse but because I put in the effort for something. Hey if we can go through what we go through on a daily basis with our husbands and not go clinically insane, we can overcome a few little road blocks to make sure that we follow our dreams. Aren’t we all worth it? ;)