Thursday, June 17, 2010

The things we do.








When G. I. Joe is home and he's watching the History Channel or some other hideously boring show on TV I can't resist the urge to make fun of him. He's totally my "old man."


Now he's not home for a few weeks. I have complete control of the remote.
His old-man-shows are set to record on the DVR.
I could undo all the timers or just flip the channel...but for some reason I don't.


When he's home he keeps the fan in our room on mega-high.
I get cold easily but he's a naturally warm body so I'm okay with it.


Now I could turn the fan down so its not blowing like a cyclone and making me shiver, but I don't.
Instead I sit under it at night wearing one of his olive drab Army hoodies.


When he's home I can talk to him anytime I want.
For the past 6 days I've been calling his phone just to hear his outgoing voice-mail message.



To some people these things might seem strange, like ticks, or displays of OCD.
But I think its completely normal, at least in the milspouse world.


When he was in Iraq it was 1000x worse.
He had 9 more months left when he came home on leave.
For 9 months I tripped over an empty razor box that he left in the bathroom.
It was a couple months before I changed the DVD we watched that last night.
If I was driving home I would only drive the route he would have us, even if that meant taking longer to get home.


(I still find myself doing that these past couple weeks)


Oh, the things we do when we miss our men.

What are some of the little things you do to feel closer to your guy when he's gone?

ETA: I just thought of one more rather "crazy" one that I do...because I was just doing it.
I write on his Facebook profile wall even though I know he can't write back and doesn't even read it when he's gone. But it still makes it seem like we've talked. Is that nutty of me?



23 comments:

Dawn said...

anytime my husband is gone at drill or AT, i sleep on his side of the bed, and i use his pillows and when he was gone at basic, i would wear his cologne.

Radiant Readhead said...

i can't fall asleep in bed without him there, i have to fall asleep on the couch and then go up later. I make him wear a shirt for 2 days before leaving and then wear it and sleep with it to smell him. when he was deployed, every month he sent me a new one he wore for 2 days so I could smell him (yeah, kind of gross...lol). I only wore his pants and shirts around the house instead of mine the ENTIRE time he was gone. weird stuff, but it brings us comfort i guess.

heather said...

Well my husband is also gone on his 2 weeks. And well I HATE to fall asleep with the tv on, like I cant even function. Well since he left I have slept with the tv on every night.I just can't bring myself to turning it off. And I usually tell him to pick up his xbox controllers(which I usually end up doing) and well I just cant seem to mess with them. They are still sitting on the ottoman where he left it... I can only imagine this will get worse if and when he deploys....

jleigh2011 said...

I do the same thing about the hoodie. As, far as something of my own that I do. I may see something that he would think is so funny and I wouldn't find the slight amusement in it and end up laughing at it. Even though I know it is not funny to me but it is to him.

Samantha said...

I find myself listening to the songs he listens to when they come on the radio. Even if they aren't my favorite.
I drive to our WalMart and walk around just because he went there with me. I stop and stare at the dishes we've talked about buying. I can even hear his voice telling me which ones he thinks are too pricey! lol!
I still have his razor sitting in the exact same spot that he left it on the sink.
His crumpled tshirt he left on the floor is still there....
I play a voicemail he left me for the kids and I just so that they can smile.
I sleep on his side of the bed just to hug his pillow....I pretend it's him.

Jessica said...

Wearing his clothes to sleep/lounge in the house. Spraying his cologne in the room/his side of the bed. Keeping our friday night home made pizza and movie night. Leaving the CD in the car of the one we listened to before he left. The normal things...

Sarah said...

Okay, this might sound weird, but if I just really miss him I will stand in his closet and smell his clothes. They'll still have his scent and it is so comforting. I also totally do the calling his cell phone thing knowing it'll go straight to voicemail, but will take whatever I can get of hearing his voice!

Meg said...

Aww, this brought a tear to my eye. There are several things I've noticed myself doing. I sleep on his side of the bed. I wear his clothes around the house. I like to bathe with his body wash (but he took it with him this time.) I listen to the songs he used to always sing.

Mel said...

Because we don't live together yet I don't have the ability to go through "his stuff." Although I do have a suitcase of clothes under my bed for when he visits.

I sleep in his old Army bootcamp PT shirt and dogtags and I sometimes use his body wash in the shower...

:)

Kerry said...

Aww you're too cute. :)

Mr. Superman & Mrs. S. said...

Not at all! These are all so endearing. I sleep with his pillow and all his ratty old t-shirts. :)

Sarah said...

I did some really crazy stuff while Joe was in BCT.

I refused to move shirts he'd left lying around our bedroom. Those did not move the whole time he was gone. Why? Because they still smelled like him. =) {They were not stinky either, which I found interesting. Lol!}

I slept only in his t-shirts.

For days after he left, I did none of the dishes. Mostly because he'd put all of them where they were...

His cereal stayed in the pantry.

His body wash stayed in the shower.

I think that's about it. =) Oh, I called his phone to hear his voice too. You're not alone.

We milspouses are a crazy bunch, aren't we? ;-)

Amanda said...

awe! how sweet!I thought I was the only one this crazy!! :D haha!

i sleep on his side of the bed, i wear his underwear, shirts, and sweat pants, i wear his cologne, i sleep on his side of the bed with his pillows. I text his phone. I talk to him in my head (hoping he'll somehow catch the brainwave). It took me a few weeks to wash the laundry he left in the basket. I use his shampoo. I listen to his c.d's in his truck (I hate every song but I just can't help myself). I've watched all of his favorite movies.
I'm sure I'm missing a few things, but that's all I can think of now. haha! :D

Adrienne said...

Well me and my man are still new but what I do is I write letters to him on FB. Also, I tell stories that I have told over and over again. lol. I also look at all the pictures that he has on FB and MySpace.

Blessing said...

My husband is actually more prone to cold, so turning the fan high would give him the cold in no time. Now, I love mega-high!

♥Miss Brittney♥ said...

I find myself doing some of these same things. I like sleeping on his side of the bed, because for some reason it makes me feel closer to him. I also love the smell of his cologne, it reminds me so much of him and when he is home. I also like to leave things the way he last left them before he left. This time it took me 3 and 1/2 months to clean up messes he left behind in our spare room and do all his laundry! Lol, i know that may sound crazy but I just couldn't bring myself to touch any of it until last week (and thats only cause were pcsing next month...well at least I am, my hubby is still deployed). And when I'm really missing him I like to play our song, the one we had our first dance to..."Lucky" by Jason Mraz and Colbie Calliat. These little things help get me through missing my hubby. :)

addicted2shius said...

I also blow up the FB wall as if we're talking even though it's a one-sided conversation with a few likes from friends. And I sleep with the TV on when he's gone. I dunno why, dulls the silence I guess.

Amanda said...

I write on my husband's Facebook wall or text him knowing I won't necessarily get a reply back, but that's OK. He can answer when he gets the chance. I also like to sleep in the last sweatshirt he wore that still smells like him. When he was in Iraq, I didn't wash one of his sweaters for at least 6 mos.

For me, it depends on how long he's gone. 3 weeks or less seems to fly by these days, especially if he's gone during the school year. The boys keep me so busy that most nights after they go to bed, I eat dinner then collapse.

Crazy Shenanigans said...

That picture of you guys is too cute!

Mateya said...

I am the same way! When Robbie was gone I always called his phone just so I could hear his voice and I would listen to old voicemails he had left me on my phone too.

Beth said...

I slept on his side of the bed for a year when he was in Iraq. I also left his toothbrush and various other items in the bathroom. (I bought him new ones before he came home, don't worry.) I also like to listen to his CDs in the car when he's gone, makes me feel like he was the last one to drive it.

Ashley said...

When my husband is gone, I sleep on his side of the bed and with his pillows. Sometimes I will accidentally drop a little bit of his aftershave on his pillow so I can smell him. I love that smell. I record all of his shows, but I refuse to watch them b/c I feel bad that I get to see them before he does. And then we can watch them all when he gets back home. I have caught myself watching his dumb sci-fi movies that come on tv. ARGH, I HATE Sci-fi. I write on his Facebook wall also.

Jordan said...

i seriously laughed really hard when i read this entry. only because i think you named about 7zillion things that i do every single time my man is away. calling his voicemail? check. driving out to his neighborhood just cause it feels like home? check. writing on his facebook wall? ummm check, check, check :) love the blog, cant wait to read more.