Wednesday, January 27, 2010

And so it begins...


Life as a "single" military parent is much harder than I remembered. G.I. Joe moved back home from Fort Dix when Lucy was 6 months old. Back then she didn't really understand what was going on. She just knew that Daddy came home one weekend a month. When he left again it really wasn't a big deal.

Now when he goes to drill for a weekend she'll "punish" him a little while. For all of 5 minutes when he gets home she'll glare at him like "Oh...its just you." She's over that pretty quickly though and we all laugh about how dramatic she attempts to be.

This time around is a bit more difficult. I guess she has been sensing that Daddy was packing up to leave for a little longer. He'll be gone for about 3 weeks to WLC. Yesterday morning the acting out started. She'd push him away when he tried to play with her or she'd just pout in a corner and moan for me if I left them in a room together. Its hard to watch because I know they are missing each other so much already. G.I. Joe knows this is going to be normal though for the foreseeable future since his job requires him to leave home often.

For those military wives reading this (or if your husbands have other jobs that take them away from home overnight)...how do you handle these situations when your children get to this point? I didn't expect that we would be dealing with this quite so soon since Lucy's only 16 months.



I can't wait to see this again in a few weeks.


G.I. Joe swears he didn't do it...

But I don't believe him.
Somehow Mommy's sweet ballerina dancing princess learned to stand at Parade Rest for minutes at a time.
Hmmm...


21 comments:

Margaret said...

I love her standing at Parade Rest. I always hated standing like that in scouts.

Mad {Life Happens During Naptime} said...

HAHAHA I am cracking up at the last picture. Oh my goodness what a funny girl.

I'm sorry he has to be gone for 3 weeks. That totally stinks. I can't give you any advice about the acting out because my hubby comes home every night. Even when Moose starts acting out because Papa is gone all day, I always have the comfort of knowing that by 7:30 D will be home. I hope these three weeks fly by for you!

Charity said...

She is so cute!!! I know with my kids it takes a good week or two to get used to it just being Mommy. It will get better in a few days.

Ashley said...

Haha Everett stood at parade rest a few times, and it cracked us up!

I don't have any advice, sorry. Its crazy that at this young she's already so aware!

JG said...

Ha! I've told SoldierMan that our kids are NOT soldiers, but I think that may be a trick we'll incorporate along with "please" and "thank you." Seems like it could come in handy one day!

Mrs P said...

Her standing at parade rest is SOOO cute, my one friend's 2 year old, before she could say much else, could give a solid OORAH and it was THE cutest thing ever. As far as how to deal, I couldn't give you any advice yet, but I'll be reading the other mom's advice for how to deal with it in the future. I know we did make lots of videos with daddy talking/singing/reading to baby girl because I was so afraid she'd not know him and be scared when he came home, she'll be around 7mo where I hear the "strange danger" phase starts so I want to prevent that as much as possible... that probably doesn't help with your situation at all but maybe some videos could help if she missed him while he's gone??

Kerry said...

I'm sorry you have to deal with the separation anxiety so soon.

My little ones didn't seem to have the same reaction to their dad leaving. Maybe because they're boys and they're huge mama's boys. The 1st one would constantly ask when he was coming back but he handled it pretty well. The 2nd one wouldn't go to him for a few months because he was deployed to Iraq when he was about 4 months old until he was about 15 or 16 months old so he didn't know him. He eventually came around but he's still stuck on me since he knows I won't leave but he handles daddy leaving pretty well too.

I'd just constantly tell her that daddy will be back and he's just going off to work and he loves her and hates leaving her. I'm sure it'll pass.

I think its soooo cute and hilarious that she's doing the stand. LOL. I had to force my hubby not to do that with our boys.

Best of luck hun. :)

Courtney said...

She is so pretty and that was a great post!

Ashley said...

I gave you an award! :)

Chelle said...

She's beautiful at parade rest. Our kids do it but it's because they've gotten in trouble and have lost all cuteness.

For our 3 year old, when daddy left I printed out a bunch of pictures of daddy and taped them up around his bed. Also another thing we did is do Remember Me Pillows. A friend of mine makes them. Remember Me Dolls

They are fabulous for the littler ones who can't really understand what's going on. What we did too was make a video of daddy talking and reading. I know a lot of people do them for deployments but anytime he was gone from Monkey, I'd play the video and Monkey would watch it more times then the day permitted.

I'm sorry she's hurting. It's never easy but sometimes I think it's even worse on the little ones who can't speak.

The Lady said...

Don't have any advice, b/c of course I'm not a military wife - but I did want to say thank you for the sacrifice that you and Lucy make so that we have someone like GI Joe doing his job for our country. Lucy is too cute standing at Parade's rest!

Working Mommy said...

Poor Lucy...thankfully the babe isn't old enough to realize when daddy has to leave for a few days. I don't know how I'm going to deal when we do get to that point, especially since I have to work.

~WM

mrs_muffins said...

I wish I could give you advice but we aren't to that stage yet. Although i'm sure it's coming. I think maybe if Lucy got to be involved in "helping" Daddy pack she would at least enjoy him longer while he's there.
The picture of her at parade rest is priceless. :)
P.S. I have an award for you on my blog.

TheCrunchyWife said...

Awww I wish I had some advice for you :(

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Amanda said...

Awwww, the standing at parade rest picture is adorable. That could come in handy as the "terrible 2's" roll in. I'd keep that in your bag of tricks.

For my boys, I would always just try to keep their routines as consistent as possible. The first week was always the hardest. When my husband was only gone for a week, he'd be home just as we got through the worst of it. If he was to be gone longer, it just took us about a week to hit our own stride. I would suggest not having your husband do key things that your daughter expects ONLY him to do. We had a hard time with our oldest because my husband was the one to put him to bed as a baby while I cooked dinner. The first time he had AT, I could NOT get our son to go to sleep for the first few nights. It was terrible.

Theta Mom said...

SO cute! And you didn't leave me the link to your WP blog, I would love to check it out. :)

J. L. W. said...

When my husband goes away, our daughter asks about her daddy (he's never been gone for more than a few days though) but talking on the phone with him helped and seeing pics. I would constantly tell her daddy was coming home and we would do a countdown. Your heart hurts when they are sad. Those pics are so cute. Your daughter at parade rest is priceless.

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Kristie said...

Your family is my thoughts and prayers.

lessings,
Kristie

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Joyfully,
Wylie

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